I am an adult orphan, and this is my story.
Orphan – a child, usually under 18, with both parents deceased (like Batman or Oliver Twist)
Adult Orphan – a legal adult (or teenager) with both parents deceased
The are many books on grief. There are only a few on adult orphans.
Of the books or on adult orphans, most focus on the middle aged+ “baby boomer” who loses a parent around the age of 65-80+ and nothing about the 15-35 year old people out there.
I lost my dad at age 5.
(It was actually 4 days before my 5th birthday.)
I was lucky to have my mom longer, but even she passed at 52, when I was just 28 myself.
(Not even 2 months after my summer wedding)
There are grief and bereavement support groups in most areas. For parent loss of a child. For children who lose a parent. Even for loss of a pet. Grief is grief right?
I attended one group for adult orphans in my local area. It was a pleasant group, but I was 30 years old in a room full of 50+ ladies and one guy. One or two may have been 45ish.
I always tell people this, about the books, and the group:
It’s all nice. But most people who I bond with over loss of parents are about the same age that my parents would have been, so it makes the experience bitter-sweet.
There is less material by, about or for a 15-35 year old audience.
As a society, we expect a 50+ to lose a parent at 80+ from old age.
But think about….
The 15+ teenager, guy or girl without mom or dad for advice on dating and sex, or other gender-based issues.
Or the 25+ adult orphans without mom and dad for weddings, birth of children, or other life lessons or accomplishments.
And myself, a 32 year old seeking parenting advice, a grandparent babysitter and the stories of myself as a baby to compare to my son.
This website will chronicle my thoughts and my story as a Young Adult Orphan.
This website is also a community for other adult orphans. I welcome others to comment, share your story, or contact me personally.
I hope to both share my perspective, my advice, my story, but I want to learn from others too.
And most important, I want to give hope to other adult orphans that you are not alone.